Feeling stressed? You’re not alone. We all have a center of wisdom and balance within us, but sometimes life takes over and we can feel all over the place! We all need a course-correcting tool — A “GPS for the Soul” — to help us find our way back to center. The guide below will give you the tools you need to reach that calmer state of mind.
Reminder: You are worth it and deserve to go for your goals. In the GPS Guide below, reader Alex Beasley shares some quotes that will motivate you to do just that. Beasley also recommends taking time for yourself each morning by meditating, drinking coffee and journaling in order to reduce stress and get inspired. Take a look at these quotes the next time you need encouragement and keep in mind that you have the power to do anything.
“You are the sky. Everything else is just the weather.” –Pema Chodron
“You are imperfect and wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.” –Brene Brown
“You can, you should, and if you’re brave enough to start, you will.” –Stephen King
“Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson
TalentSmart has tested more than a million people and found that the upper echelons of top performance are filled with people who are high in emotional intelligence (90% of top performers, to be exact). The hallmark of emotional intelligence is self-control — a skill that unleashes massive productivity by keeping you focused and on track.
Unfortunately, self-control is a difficult skill to rely on. Self-control is so fleeting for most people that when Martin Seligman and his colleagues at the University of Pennsylvania surveyed two million people and asked them to rank order their strengths in 24 different skills, self-control ended up in the very bottom slot.
And when your self-control leaves something to be desired, so does your productivity.
When it comes to self-control, it is so easy to focus on your failures that your successes tend to pale in comparison. And why shouldn’t they? Self-control is an effort that’s intended to help achieve a goal. Failing to control yourself is just that — a failure. If you’re trying to avoid digging into that bag of chips after dinner because you want to lose a few pounds and you succeed Monday and Tuesday nights only to succumb to temptation on Wednesday by eating four servings’ worth of the empty calories, your failure outweighs your success. You’ve taken two steps forward and four steps back.
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It sounds so obvious, I know. In fact, you’d think it would go without saying. But training the mind, meditating, being mindful, or whatever else we choose to call it only works if we actively engage with it. More than that, it only works if we practice it regularly, preferably on a daily basis with a considered, gentle discipline.
The obvious comparison is training the body, perhaps to get fit or to lose some weight. It’s not enough to have the membership card of the gym in our bag or the shiny new trainers at home, hoping we might get fit by osmosis. We need to actually turn up for the event, to engage in physical exercise on a regular basis to experience the benefits. The same is true of the mind.
Here are my 10 top tips for making sure you develop a consistent practice and stay committed to maintaining a healthy mind:
1) Meditate first thing in the morning if you can. It will ensure it gets done, gets rid of any grogginess from your sleep and is a great way to start the day. It will also mean you are more likely to be mindful throughout the day.
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The one emotion that we most commonly repress is joy.
We don’t intend to do this. Instead, it happens through inattention. Few if any of us would sense joy arising and make a conscious decision to destroy it or push it out of awareness. Few of us would refuse happiness if it were to appear. And still we repress joy all the time.
One of the principles of meditation is that it allows joy to flourish. The process of meditating is that you start paying attention to some immediate sensory experience, such as the breathing. Then, after a while, you realize you’ve stopped doing that, and have instead been caught up in some train of thought. And so you bring your attention back to the breathing again. You do this over and over again.
What happens is that you get happier, and the reason for this is that you’ve stopped repressing your joy. Most of the distracted thoughts we have create suffering for us, because in those distracted trains of thought we create dissatisfaction, worry, or self-doubt. All of these kinds of thinking hinder our happiness and make us suffer. Let go of them, and calmness, peace, and joy naturally arise.
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